Putting God 1st

As moms, we get so busy that we become overwhelmed by things that don't matter or belong in the core circle of our lives.

How do you view yourself?, your friends, and your family and where do you place them on the layers of your inner life? and where do you think God wants them to be?

I know that most of us would place our kids first within the core, our parents next,our spouse, then friends within the same circle as our spouses. In reality, God should be placed first, your spouse next, then your kids and Friends and acquaintances should be on the outside layers. Think of the layers of circles as your home. Do you allow your friends and family member to live in your kitchen? Your kitchen-is the core of the house which is where God should always be. That's the place where you sit, talk, cook, prepare meals, and sometimes eat meals-It's the center of the house;which is the center of your life.

Translation-God is the center of your life. When you decided to marry the person you are/were in love with-you have become one; which meansand that's the person who should come next in your life. I know it's hard to acknowledge that your kids would come second to your husbnad but that's the way God really wants them positioned.

I know, I know this sounds so off-key because us moms tend to adore our kids more than anything or anyone on the planet and we would leave our husbands/spouses for the satisfaction of our kids.

Placing God first in everything you do, will help you align yourself and the people close to you in the place God wants them to be.

Take the time to get to know yourself and know God so that you can be able to satisfy and be happy with yourself as a person, a mom, wife, friend, etc. I know it's so hard to reposition people and things in your life because you have been living your life by convenience instead of dealing with the reality of your cards that's in your hand.

Change is uneasy and have an overwhelming feeling of not being settled. However, we need to be shaken and moved so that we can figure our way back to Him.

Most of the time, we wonder why things are going so wrong for us, its because God is trying to get your attention to go back on the right path we are destined to be. We lose track of our goals and what He has in store for us because we get wrapped into the social life of having friends and being "best" mom of everything.

We have to realize what's important and weed out what's not. Sometimes we figure it out the first time and sometimes, it takes a tragedy to occur for us to realize who is important and why and who our true friends are(not even a hand-full).

Take time to nurture your soul so that you can nurture your spouse, kids, and friends and family.

Until Next time,

LIVE, LOVe, LEARN-Lesson Learned

Take time to Breathe

Today I attended a mom coffee social and it felt amazing to be amongst other moms. Sometimes we don't realize that we need a break until we actually get the hour or two to ourselves. It's okay to take a break from time to time when you need it. It's a challenging task to be a mom and we all go through similar things in our lives at different times. So take time to breathe.

Question?
Have you ever felt like you were going to go crazy and just wanted to yell or cry or curse at your kids because your body has been craving self attention? Guess what, you're not alone. There have been many times where I just wanted to yell and say "SHUT UP" just because my brain needed mental silence to catch up to the needs of them. Actually, just the other day, I told my kids "SHUT UP, SHUT UP, Just SHUT UP!!!!" I couldn't believe I said that because in my house shut up is a "bad" phrase to say but I couldn't refrain from saying it. I could no longer be too nice and continue to ask them to be quiet because mommy was not feeling well. My body was hurting so badly and I began to feel an emotional drainage and it felt like every piece of energy was draining out of my body as if I was the tub that accumulated water then the plug was pulled and all the water began to empty into a hole.

If you ever feel that way, take the time to tell your kids that you need a break whether its 10 or 20 minutes and no matter how old they are, they will understand. I've learned that being open and honest with my kids is the best way for me as a mother so that I don't have a snapping moment.

I know that I can't be a "perfect" mom 100% of the time and I've accepted that. When I feel my body needs a moment to breathe, I allow it to happen and I tell my kids that "Mommy needs a break, I've had a long day today and if you could give me about 15-20 minutes, I am all yours." They are more understaning to your needs when you let them know what's going with you.

Just last week, I started my monthly and I was a bit crabby and grumpy for two days, I told my kids that its that time and that I may be a bit cranky for a few days, so don't get upset if I'm a little crazy and irritable.

My sons were so understanding and they both knew to stay out of the way and to just be more calm for those couple of days until I felt normal and less irritable.

SO BEING HONEST WITH YOURSELF HELPS YOU WITH BEING OPEN AND HONEST WITH YOUR KIDS.